Low Libido

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This issue can affect a person's health and well-being at a profoundly deep level. Some people are embarrassed to talk about it, others are disarmingly frank, all are deeply affected when there is a problem and are glad to know that there is another approach than the expensive and rather unnatural options available from pharmaceutical medicine.

Much of what's written in this article is entirely suitable for a person to work through themselves but, especially if things are quite bad, or you just know that you need further help, then there may be a great deal of benefit to you to go to whatever lengths necessary to find a good herbalist or truly holistic practitioner to guide you on to a safe and strong treatment program. There's a short write-up to suggest how you might go about finding such a person here

Caveat Emptor (buyers beware!)

These are the three great markets for unscrupulous exploiters in the health world: Hair-loss, weight-loss and libido-loss! You should be very wary of anyone trying to sell you anything in those areas in particular.

I am not trying to sell you anything, there's nothing on this site for sale, but I am often asked for advice or medicine to help people who are suffering from a low libido. Is there something natural that can genuinely help or do such herbs only exist in the avaricious dreams of advertisers and marketers?

In fact, there are some things that can genuinely help. If you or someone you know is suffering from a low libido, then you certainly should try a natural approach because you won't end up trading one problem for another as is often the case with pharmaceutical fixes and, if you do it right, it will probably help.

Panax ginseng


Herbs that help

The most important herbs to reliably improve a person's general health that may potentially also help their libido are the great tonic remedies and top of the list for these herbs are Panax Ginseng, written up here and Withania root, here. These two herbs are highly likely to help at least to some degree -- if taken correctly.

Withania and Ginseng deserve a degree of trust based on their history and scientific proof however, they are quite slow acting and, as well as these, it may help to use two other, faster-acting, libido-lifting herbs

Damiana, more here, and Epimedium, here, have often been found to help over the many millennia that they have been in popular use. Both these herbs have been the subject of some degree of modern scientific scrutiny and Epimedium in particular looks like it has a range of action similar to the now-famous drug Viagra.

In practice, we would commonly use a combination of some of these and other herbs in a formula together, taken once or twice each day over a period of weeks if not months, because the longer you use a tonic the better it works.

Epimedium grandiflorum


Make love to make more love

For many people, the best way back into getting sexually active is to drop the expectation that sex is all about penetration and orgasm and get back to their teenage years when sex was a lot more about fondling, kissing and general intimacy. For men in particular, once the expectation to 'perform' has been put aside, they can usually get things working in a fraction of the time that it would take if they were still trying to measure up to a standard they set themselves in their early 20s. If appropriate, there is a more detailed article on erectile dysfunction (ED) if that is what is at the heart of the issue, this is here

Women equally quickly lose their interest in sex if it becomes painful or uncomfortable. Once that happens the only way to correct the problem is to have a truly great time and again the best way to do that will be to drop all expectations and be open to trying to do things differently, things that do feel good. Also, for some women, there is a hormonal change or other kind of physical barrier to having pleasurable sex that may need to be attended to. Two of the main issues here are covered in much more depth in the article on premenstrual syndrome here and the menopause here

Physical issues notwithstanding, one of the main obstacles can only be overcome through open communication between partners. For some people, especially from the older generation, such an idea is challenging to say the least but people can and do put their qualms aside and forge on ahead anyway. Get into bed together and by all means do some of the old things but also be 100% open to trying new things. Ask your partner 'do you like that, does that feel good?' Likewise give them feedback as to what you like and what you want more of.

Any amount of embarrassment in the beginning is worth getting your sex-life back to being great. In fact, if you do things right in this department then it will probably be better than it ever was in your life -- then just see what that does to how you feel about things in general!

Turnera aphodisiaca (Damiana)

Constitutional Health Note

Finally, you might benefit from learning about your constitution to know what kind of foods, herbs, exercises etc. will work especially well for your health in general.

Constitutional health is an old and fascinating way of understanding our differences. There's a brief introduction here and a more detailed section on working out which constitution you are here

Please understand that I cannot personally advise you without seeing you in my clinic.
This living 'book' is my labour of love so, wherever you are, I wish you peace & good health!



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